Today I did an interview with a couple local writers who do a blog about inspiration/influential women in our community. One of my friends who thinks way more of me than she should told these gals I should be one of their people. I love meeting new people and just chatting over coffee or lunch, so I agreed.
We went through all the basics: where are you from, what do you do, who are your people, what influences you, what’s your favorite quote or scripture, how do you do it all…. As we were wrapping up, one of the ladies asked me, “What are your goals and dreams from here?” If you know me, you know I’m rarely speechless. But, this kinda caught me off guard. I didn’t really know what to say. All I could come up with was “to finish well.”
Then, as I drove to my next appointment I got all introspective on myself. What? No more goals, no more dreams? That’s awful! I do have business goals every year, and ideas of what I would like to accomplish. But, my thought around the table was, my life has already yielded more than I could EVER dream. If you had asked my smart-aleck, know it all, had the world by the horns, 18 year old self what my dreams were, it would have probably been something like this:
2)Travel the world
3)Move to a big city
4)Have a successful career
5)Have an awesome husband and adorable kids
6)Have a ginormous house
7)Own my own business
8)Maybe– do mission work. That probably wasn’t a dream until college though.
Check, check, check, check, check, check, check times three, and check. Seriously. By the time I was 35 I had accomplished more than all I had ever dreamed of having. Now, in today’s terms I probably wouldn’t consider my house ginormous. But, I remember thinking when I was in high school that one day I was going to have enough money to pay $250,000 for a house. I was going to have a house much bigger than the one I grew up in. Well, let’s just say our house costs significantly more than $250,000 and it is more than double the size of the house I grew up in. Is it the biggest, nicest house in town- not even close, especially in this town. But, it is more than I ever dreamed of having.
So, what now? Do I just quit dreaming because life has gone pretty well for me? Do I want my kids to have an attitude that you can do enough and quit. Well, it isn’t about quitting for me. If you know me, you know I’ve far from quit on life. But, all the things I dreamed about aren’t my focus anymore. I’ve learned to be content with having more than enough. My little life perspective change in February 2014 probably has a lot to do with that. But, this Earth is not our home. We’re just passing through, tending to the resources God has given us.
One of my biggest beefs with society is that it (society, media, peer pressure, etc) tells us that we can never have enough. Contentment is always just out of reach. If you achieve one goal, you need a bigger better goal. What if we quit focusing so much on bigger and better goals, and living out more elaborate dreams, and instead started focusing on being the best version of ourselves and serving and loving those around us well. My goals and dreams are now centered around giving more and doing more. I’ve had my hey day. I could die tomorrow and not be dissatisfied with myself or my experiences. I want to pass it on. Equip my children to achieve their goals and dreams. But, more importantly equip them to live out the life God has planned for them…..
Because for real people, if we are focused on our own goals and dreams, we aren’t dreaming big enough. People often quote Ephesians 3:20, but I really just love the whole 3rd chapter. God has bigger plans, bigger power, bigger dreams. So, go ahead and settle with what you’ve dreamed and be okay with achieving enough. Then, just sit back and ask God, “what’s next”?
Ephesians 3: 16-20
16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.
20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us,